It’s been a summer of weddings for Eric and I this year, and we’re loving each one. I loved attending weddings before we got married, and now that we’ve had our own, I love them even more! It is so sweet to reminisce on our day and see how couples plan theirs with a personal flair.
When I think back to E & I’s wedding, my mind doesn’t just wander to specific moments, but also to the five truths I took away from our celebration. I love passing these along to other brides-to-be for a couple reasons: 1) I think hearing them can bring some peace and 2) a lot of planning sites aren’t really talking about them, since they’re understandably focused on logistics and details.
So with that being said, five things to remember on your wedding day that I’d love to share with you are below!
If you’re engaged, I hope this reassures little worries you may have and adds to your excitement.
If you’re married, I hope you can resonate with these and it brings happy memories.
If you’re not engaged or married, truth be told, I think these pieces apply to a lot of scenarios, not just weddings – so I hope you still enjoy!
1. It’s your day – spend the time doing what will make you happiest. // I know as the bride + groom at weddings, you’re supposed to go around and talk to everyone – and you totally should – but it doesn’t need to take up your whole night! Eric and I were most excited to dance with our family and friends. I knew when I looked back on the day, I’d be happiest thinking about dropping it to Beyoncé with my girls and dancing to the mariachis with my family – not watching them! E & I said our Thank yous throughout the night, to avoid getting stuck at tables right off the bat. We talked to folks all over the place – the photo booth, the cake table, in front of the DJ! This ensured we really got to enjoy our wedding, while still showering our loved ones with gratitude.
2. Rain doesn’t ruin a wedding. // You guys, have y’all read our wedding story? It POURED for a solid 45 minutes right after our first look, before the ceremony. We ended up getting intimate time with our wedding party and parents, while guests stayed dry chatting in the reception hall. After waiting it out, the sky cleared and a double rainbow appeared. We got to have our wedding outside and take photos during the sunset, just like we wanted!
And you know what? If it hadn’t cleared up, I’m still convinced it would’ve been the best day ever because I was marrying Eric no matter what, surrounded by my favorite people.
Lastly, you know what they say…rain on your wedding day is good luck!
3. It’s all in the details…until it’s not. // Planning away until the big day is normal! You want everything to be perfect, and if you loved planning your wedding as much as I did, it’s so much fun to layout the details. Day of though, the bride + groom have strict instructions to be stress-free and enjoy all the hard work that’s gone into the event. If there are still specific things your opinion is needed on, the staff will check-in for your direction. Otherwise, have confidence that every little piece is being tracked and organized by those around you – whether you know it or not. Your job is to have fun and relax!
4. Things will probably run a bit behind schedule, and that’s ok. // It seems no matter how wonderful the planner, somehow things end up running a bit behind schedule at weddings. You know what? It’s fine! On one side, your guests are there to celebrate you. They have free food + drinks in their hand, and get to hang out with each other. On the other hand, you are getting extra time to soak it all up! If timing is a bit off because there was some extra photos, or *ahem* the weather, don’t sweat it. Enjoy those bonus moments and trust that those in charge will keep things moving!
5. I promise this is just the first of many “best days.” // I remember at the end of the night, feeling a fleeting “aww” because the best day ever couldn’t last forever. Then I remembered, I get to be with Eric for the rest of my life…so it kind of does!
I’m not being cheesy, I 100% genuinely still feel that way.
Do I wish I could re-live our wedding day over? Of, course! It was absolutely the best day ever…but I can’t tell you how many times since our wedding we’ve gone “no, this is the best day ever!” or “this is the best thing ever!” When you’re spending a lifetime with your best friend, lover, travel buddy, etc., I promise that feeling happens all. the. time.
So tell me, friends: What are other things to remember on your wedding day have you heard? What truths did you leave with on your wedding day, or from another celebration?
all great tips, my wedding was one of the best nights of my life, it went till 6 am and they were setting up for breakfast. Those were the days! Just celebrated my 12th anniversary last weekend and our relationship keeps getting better!
Aw, thanks for sharing Janna! I love hearing that. Congrats!! xo Dayna
I love your wedding photographer. Beautiful wedding! Thank you for sharing tips. We have been engaged for 5 years with two babies. We are hoping to finally have a wedding in the next couple years. I will keep these tips in mind as we begin planning! Thank you for sharing.
Yay, sounds like a big celebration is in store! Thanks for reading, lady!! xo Dayna
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